It’s Valentine’s Day, and that means it’s time to ask yourself whether this is love, or if there’s still time to text him never mind.

Maybe you smile every time you say his name. Maybe the only thing in the world that matters to you right now is that you’re together. Maybe, even when you’re busy, even when you haven’t had a second to breathe, you make time for each other, because this—what you both have—is real. Or maybe, it’s only been a little while and you can totally be like, “Oooops! Gotta go!”

This could be love. It could be the most intimate you’ve ever felt with another person. If not, thank God, you might still have time to say to him, “Wait, I think you’ve got the wrong number? Lol??”

Think long and hard about your relationship. Think about your ups and downs, and everything you’ve been through together. If you have a collection of fond, beautiful memories, then you’re gross, and you might be all the way in love. If you don’t, awesome, there’s still time to escape! The next time he sends you a love letter, just reply, “Oh,” and then never speak to him again.

In the end, you have to do what your heart tells you. But if it doesn’t say words and you just hear heart sounds, dump him.